Making a long-distance relationship work

Long-distance relationships are a reality for many first generation and low income college students, whether you're cities, states, or countries apart from your partner. And it can be hard trying to balance your relationship with the life you lead away from your partner at school.

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What can you do about it? Here are some tips for you and your hometown honey to keep your long-distance relationship alive:

Talk, don't assume. Never, ever, ever assume that you know what your partner is feeling or that they will get what you are going through. You have to talk openly about these things. Communication is the key to any relationship, but it really becomes your #1 tool in a long-distance one.

Be realistic about your expectations. As with any relationship that undergoes a major change, you can't expect it to be the exact same way it was when you were in the same locale. As you make the adjustment, make sure you and your partner talk about your expectations and be open to adjusting them as needed.

Don't jump to conclusions. In your mind, separate the worst case scenario from the best case scenario and don't put your fears on your partner. Ask questions, seek out more information, and don't make hasty decisions.

Above all, trust your partner. If you are overly concerned that your partner will stray while you're away, you don't trust your partner... and that is no way to maintain a relationship! Sorry to say, but if a lack of trust is an issue that you and your partner can't work through, the relationship is doomed... (And if your mistrust is based on previous bad behavior, well, that's a whole other issue...)

In addition to these tips, our friends over at The Real College Guide posted a great one about long-distance relationships. Check it out!

Got questions? Please feel free to ask The Advisor about it.